Follow The Discomfort

Not all stress is bad.
Distress is the one that makes it hard to get up in the mornings.
Eustress is the soreness after a workout, the discomfort of talking to a new person.

The first makes your life worse, it hurts you.
The second actually makes your growth. 
These two are a world apart.

If you know how to tell the difference, then aggressively aim for the latter. 
This will be your ultimate compass.