There’s a Book for That

Your problem is most likely not unique. 
The deepest and most troublesome are the ones that are most human.
They’ve existed since humans existed.
And since they’ve exists, there have been people that have dealt with them.
They have passed their knowledge onward in the form of books. 
Don’t waste your time learning through trial and error. 
Instead learn from past masters, look how better you get

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